Sunday, February 27, 2011

Women-The reason for our existence

Alright, I know, I have written so many blogs on the female variant of the species Homo-sapiens that I can claim expertise in it. However this time, its different(please don't consider this as just another marketing gimmick!).

8th March of every year is celebrated as International Womens day across the globe. I would not dwell into its history as it doesn't hold as much significance as the day itself. Many may consider it as a western world's just another reason for celebration. I would not disagree either, after all, all countries are not blessed with so many holidays as India is. However I would still like to see it from India's perspective.

India has always been a country where women have held a special place. Amongst the 330 million odd Indian gods, the Goddesses hold a special place. Be it Durga or Parvati or Kali. All of them are revered by the faithfuls, Not to mention that up in the heavens too, the decisions and policies of Gods are often believed to be driven by wives of Gods i.e Goddesses. Coming back to the mortal world, Kerala, God's own country is proud to be a matriarchal society(quite rightly God's own country). What that means is, women are the leader of the family, its the husband which goes to his wife's home after marriage, that was quite long ago,not anymore it seems. Coming closer in history, the Indian independence movement was driven by powerful females like Sarojni Naidu amongst others. After Independence, the most powerful Prime minister India ever had was a woman, Indira Gandhi. Her daughter-in-law controls the current political scenario quite adeptly. Indian women are going places, be it Indira Nooyi(pepsico's CEO) or Late Kalpana Chawla(astronaut).

Of the shining Indian women movement, a few things stuck me.......

"Whats your name dear?" someone asked her
"Mehek" she replied, rolling her tongue out
"How old are you? and who do you stay with?"
"I am 4, no 5 no 4.5, I stay with my uncle, My parents have gone to meet God. But my uncle is taking good care of me. He gives me ice-cream everyday. And he plays a game with me everyday after coming home" she said, confused what else to say
 "What game?" he curiously asked
"He removes my clothes, and then he removes his clothes, then we lie together on bed. He does something to me and I feel a tickling sensation between my legs. Its so much fun" She said with all the excitement in her voice
"WHAT??????" he said.

The so called uncle was arrested by the man himself who was asking these questions to the little girl perched up on a bench in a park all alone. The man is an IPS officer, and the uncle, a successful man who took advantage of this orphan girl.

Little girls are not always the target and common man is always not the accused.

A girl in Banda district was inhumanely raped by the MLA from SP. Worse still, the police made a blooper by disclosing the girls identity and arresting her for theft instead. The girl has threatened to become a dacoit if she doesn't get justice(as if phoolan devi was not enough). If you think, this is a one off case. A NCP MLA from jalgaon is accused of a similar crime against  a girl on the pretext of giving her job. And if even this is not sufficient, a cop attached to a police station in Mumbai committed suicide, reason, he was accused in a rape case and had been absconding. If the lawmakers and law protectors indulge in crime against women, who will safeguard them?

And if people think, rape is the only crime that can happen, think again. An Indian diplomat attached to Indian embassy in UK was accused of domestic violence. Cases of dowry harassment and female infanticide are taken in pride by the Indian society. Everybody and anybody who has stared at a woman, tried to seek any attention out of a woman in any form is an accused for sexual harassment. Everyday when a girl leaves her home, she anticipates and expects that she will be stared at in public, she will be suppressed in office. Unfortunately and shamefully for us, the women have accepted it as a part of their life.

For a nation which recites Durga chalisa with ease. Takes pride in Indira Gandhi and Kalpana chawla. For the set of politicians who pass the bill Women reservation on one hand, and are accused of rape on other hand, its shameful and pitiful.

If we can get rid of the 'Sati' system efficiently, then why not these crimes?

A man is not a man because he can control a lady, he is a man if he can protect a lady. And if we can't protect women, the reason why we exist on this earth, then we cant protect our existence either.

Signing off-
A proud  pro-feminist


SWAT said...

Truely touched n moved by dis coloumn of urs...I hope as many men as women read dis article so dat dey eventually realise d truth n its gravity...truely proud to be a women...n d very reason of existence of life on dis planet..i hope ppl realise dis fact n make dis wrld a safe n a beautiful place for evry living being to live let alone women..

Arpz said...

This Blog will act as a Cuppy Cake gift for Women this Woman's Day..thanx Abhi for such a gr8 post

Shubhada said...

Abhi this blog is a platform which u have express yourself!! I really appreciate this. You have give narration as well your opinion.. But beyond this there is a fact..and that truth is woman herself somewhere feel very handicapped to fight these battles..more than man protection..they afraid of fighting against it.. They just follow "IGNORANCE IS BLISS". When matter comes to there sexual harassment they goes into there shell.....I think so untill we are not ready to fight oueselves..nobody will protect us..apart form us...when male will come to know they are that much physically strong and will reply back ...the scenario will start changing......!!! It's a process..ROME CAN NOT BUILT IN A DAY!! I think guys like you ....will be a rare stone ...!! Thanx for writing not for has to be like this.....!!!!!!

Ayushi said...

m proud to hv u as my frnd!!

Shivani Shastri said...

What to say...
m truly awestruck after reading such a whole hearted write up on such a topic by a guy...
Guess its time for me to get over the impression that all guys are chauvinist somewhere, somehow...

A big big thumbs-up to you Abhishek...

Abhishek said...

I would take that as a best comment, coz it did change ur mindset...I am glad my blog could change some1, even if it was in a slightest way.......

Mons' said...

u write so wel .. hats off on ur views.. :)

Seriously if ppl start perceiving ur thinkin.. world wil change drastically ..

u rock man.. :)


pallavi said...

Abhi i highly appreciate your views and efforts. truely touched by this blog of yours. the three lines written in bold says everythng..thanks a lot for writing and sharing this post..

Love :)

N 3 H A said...

I m speechless ........ too good yaar

Mohit Tyagi said...

Abhi its really nice one yar. It not only describes the situation of women in our society but also teaches us a lesson.

Deepti ...An X-ception said...

Nice yaar....awsum
toooo gud....
hats off man..:)

Shubhada said...

It's nice to read your blog my dear friend. You expressed your point of view very nicely. Abhishek issue is that we should work on grass root level of this severe cause.
Every man learns to give respect women from his home. There are so many families where women is still an object. We need to work on that mentality and approach towards women.
Your blog is sigh of relief that there are guys who understands women's sentiments and able to protect and care for them.

Shubhada S. Jagdale

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